Monday, December 31, 2012

The Face of Birth (DVD)


The Face of Birth. Wonderful DVD :)

"A movie about respecting and protecting a woman's right to choose 
how, where and with whom she gives birth

Through the diverse and moving stories of five women who choose to have homebirths The Face of Birth gives us the big-picture on the importance of how, where and with whom we give birth to our children.

Featuring interviews with some of the world's top childbirth experts The Face of Birth explores the links between choice and safety. It exposes the hidden costs, and broader social consequences of rising rates of intervention.

A must-see for all parents, and anyone intending to give birth, this feature-length movie about pregnancy, childbirth and the power of choice will change the way you view childbirth."

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Big Boy Beanie

My little Bean is growing up :) :(

For about 6-8 weeks now we've been down to one breastfeed a day, the pre-bedtime feed. It's a token feed, most days just half a minute each side. And we're both okay with that. A couple of months ago I encouraged him to to drop the very early morning feed. It was just one of those weird pregnancy things, I couldn't stand the feeling of him breastfeeding and that morning feed was more than I could take. We had some extra cuddle time and after a week or so he forgot to even ask for boobies. Who knows what will happen after Baby Bear is born, either way it's okay.

And tonight is Beanie's second night sharing a room with his brothers. They're all coping fine with the move. Beanie's been sleeping through the night consistently for about 6 months now and able to settle himself to sleep for about 4 months, only needing to sleep in our bed when sick or early in the morning when The OH and I were trying to have a sleep in. I think I'm finding it harder to adjust than he is (Beanie is absolutely thrilled to be in with his brothers and keeps telling me that he's a big boy now). Me, on the other hand, I'm so used to having a baby next to me, whether snuggled up next to me in bed or in a cot pushed up against our bed. And there's actually less bed-space with Beanie gone. With the cot right up against our bed, I had a doona and pillows packed into the space in between with a sheet firmly tucked over everything so there were no gaps. It added a good extra 20-odd cm to our queen sized bed and without the cot there I now find myself nearly rolling off the edge of the mattress in the middle of the night!

But now I have space in our bedroom to get the bassinette set up; to get the newborn clothes and nappies washed and put away; to put together my box of homebirth supplies. And I'm really excited. Crazy as it may be, I'm looking forward to experiencing labour again, looking forward to welcoming and embracing the contractions that will bring our little boy earthside. I am sad/happy/grateful because pregnancy #11 will be our last one. And I can't wait to be able to cuddle my little Baby Bear and to breathe in deep his sweet newborn baby smell. :x

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Waiting For A Sunny Day


Shmoo and The OH put together the little solar powered rainbow maker today, one of our Christmas 'family' gifts (ordered through one of those fundraising catalogues during the year). It's stuck up on our kitchen window now. Just have to wait for a nice sunny day to get some direct sunlight shining through those crystals! :)

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas

   

   

Hope your Christmas was as lovely as ours.

The boys loved all of their pressies, particularly the Viewmasters :D Always satisfying to see them take such joy in exploring and appreciating their gifts.

I'm looking forward to sitting down and watching the DVD that The OH got me - The Face of Birth. Hopefully one night soon when I'm not feeling absolutely exhausted.

The OH was pretty chuffed too with his pressies... a 'Bazinga!' Hoodie and a Tea Stix stainless steel tea diffuser.

Dear Mum...

No, I will not force my son to have a haircut. Yes, he is just a young child, what's your point? That his desire to have long hair doesn't matter, that his opinion is unimportant? Well guess what - what he wants is important to him and me! And it's just hair FFS. And unlike some mothers, I'm happy to let my kids find out who they are for themselves and not try and force them into some stupid socially acceptable, one size fits all mould.

I think my son looks gorgeous, long hair or short. And, personally, I find your attitude completely offensive (yet again). So what if he has long hair; so what if I let him wear pink or nail polish. You're shocked and horrified that "he looks like a hippie or... or a...". Or a what? You can't even bring yourself to say it. A girl? Oh my goodness, what will other people think of me, his mother?! You know what? I don't care! 8-|

I am so glad we live at the opposite ends of the country (you don't think that was a coincidence, do you?).

And you've met him, spent time with him, talked with him. Yes, he's on the autism spectrum. No, there's nothing wrong with him. He is who he is and we love and respect him. We're not out to 'fix' him.

Your parenting advice is neither wanted or needed. Ever wonder why practically everything I do as a parent is what you never were to me? You've been a fine example of how not to parent a child. Did you know that one of my biggest fears is that I'll end up just like you? It's taken my psychologist a long time to convince me that I won't.

Yeah, merry Christmas to you too. And thanks for trying to guilt-trip me again. Whatever. But, honestly and sincerely, thank you for reminding me that I'm not you.

Monday, December 24, 2012

Letter to Santa

Dear Santa,

Thank you once again for what I'm sure will be some wonderful stocking-fillers for the kids. I know we can always count on you to avoid the plastic, battery-operated toys. ;)

I know we usually leave a plate of biscuits as a snack for you but things have been a little busy this year so we whipped up a quick chocolate cake this afternoon. It turned out pretty well, if I do say so myself, so I hope you enjoy the big slice we've left out for you. The chocolate butter icing got rave reviews from the kids and The OH. The OH says it tastes like Lindt chocolate. It's made from fresh homemade butter, the cream lovingly churned, none of that store-bought stuff. Okay, okay, I'll admit, it was meant to be chocolate whipped cream but I was trying to make dinner at the same time and somehow cream turned into butter. Oops. But it's pretty tasty, don't you think?

I do hope you have a smooth run tonight and that you get some R&R before next Christmas.

xx

PS. There's heaps of cake left in the fridge so feel free to take some home for Mrs. C. Shmoo also poured a glass of milk for you but there's some very yummy apple and apple & raspberry water kefir in the fridge if you'd prefer.

PPS. If you see the Tooth Fairy while doing your rounds, could you please thank her for us for working Christmas Eve. We hope that she gets a nice Christmas bonus... I know we've certainly kept her busy over the last few weeks. Shmoo was most grateful for the surprise pre-bedtime tooth exchange and loves the Japanese-style doll keyring that she left him. He hopes that she finds a good use for his tooth.

I Love...

Sitting here watching the Christmas carols on TV with the kids; their hands eagerly pressed against my tummy, feeling the regular bump-bump-bump of their baby brother hiccuping away inside.

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Ugh...

Poor Loo. We went to a little Christmas party yesterday and as soon as we got there the boys were offered a gumball. They were keen to try them as they've never had gumballs before (and unless we're aware of specific allergens, like raw egg, then we generally don't make them refuse these things if they're offered when we're out, we're just fairly selective when it comes to what we buy for the kids ourselves). So, each of the boys accepted a gumball.

Shmoo didn't like his and chose to discreetly spit the remains into a serviette (I must admit, I was quite pleased when he did!). Both Loo and Beanie happily consumed theirs. Unfortunately, within minutes Loo had rashed up around his mouth, over his chest, neck and behind his ears; and his behaviour quickly became aggressive. One gumball, that's all it took. No doubt those gumballs contained all manner of nasty colours, flavours and preservatives. As to what was different compared to the stuff he ate a few days ago - who knows. When they were offered more gumballs later in the evening I did say no thanks and luckily none of the boys minded at all.

The poor boy is still rashy and itchy today. And I'm trying not to let the mama-guilt get too out of control *sigh* :(

And I really do need to get a fresh bottle of Phenergan to carry around with us. It's been so long since we've needed it.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

White Wine In The Sun (Tim Minchin)

One of my fave Christmas songs ever...

Boobies

Scene: Extremely crowded OBGYN's office. Beanie sitting in my lap, facing me. He plants a hand firmly on each side of my chest and begins talking very clearly and very loudly. Oh no...

Beanie: Mummy, are these my boobies?
Me: Gonna tickle you... tickle tickle! *lame attempt at distraction*
Beanie: *frustrated at being brushed off* Mama! Are these my boobies?
Me: *very quietly* Um, erm, yes??
Beanie: Mama! ARE THESE MY BOOBIES?!
Me: *absolutely mortified and unsure if he just didn't hear me or was unsatisfied with my answer* Um, no?
Beanie: Mummy, but why aren't these my boobies? Mummy? Mama!! Aren't these my boobies?!

Cringe. No, Beanie, they're my boobies and we share them but I'm not entirely comfortable having a loud discussion about them in front of a dozen of strangers. But, flustered and under pressure, do you think I could think of a concise way to say it that would be satisfactory to my 2 year old?

Yet another one of those embarrassing moments that come with parenting a toddler. You'd think I'd be used to it by now.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Secular Christmas Songs

Last year, after being driven crazy by weeks of the kids having the same Christmas CDs on repeat, I made up our own secular Christmas playlist. It had to be a combination of songs that would appeal to both us and the kids. Thankfully I was successful but, for the life of me, I couldn't locate it when I dug out the Christmas CDs this year. Luckily I still had it all on the computer!

  1. We Wish You a Merry Christmas (Sesame Street)
  2. Winter Wonderland (Bing Crosby)
  3. The Christmas Song (Nat King Cole)
  4. Twelve Days of Christmas (John Denver)
  5. Santa Baby (Eartha Kitt)
  6. Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer (KidSongs)
  7. Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree (Brenda Lee)
  8. Let it Snow! (Bing Crosby)
  9. Jingle Bells (The Wiggles)
  10. Santa Clause is Coming to Town (Frank Sinatra)
  11. Go Santa Go (The Wiggles)
  12. All I Want for Christmas is You (Mariah Carey)
  13. Frosty the Snowman (Bing Crosby)
  14. Jingle Bell Rock (The Wiggles)
  15. White Christmas (Perry Como)
  16. It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year (Andy Williams)
  17. Sleigh Ride (Sesame Street)
  18. Silver Bells (Bing Crosby)
  19. Deck the Halls (Christmas Party Singers)
  20. Twelve Days of Christmas (Sesame Street)
  21. I'll Be Home for Christmas (Bing Crosby)
  22. White Wine in the Sun (Tim Minchin)
  23. Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas (Kermit the Frog)
  24. Happy Christmas (War is Over) (John Lennon)

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Karate

 
 

He's come such a long way over the past few years. It's such a joy to watch him grow more confident, both around others and within himself.

Excited...

 

Can't wait for the boys to unwrap their new art kits next week! Ohhhh the beautiful rainbow of colours and the smell of the beeswax crayons... magical!

I managed to score 3 x 36 packs of Lyra Groove pencils on Fishpond at a bargain price. So excited that they'll have all of those lovely shades to choose from. And the Stockmar block crayons are from Rainbow Tree... I love those crayons. The quality is amazing and they last forever. We've got a few from a little set that I bought when Shmoo was a toddler and they're still going strong (trust me, with 3 kids they've certainly been tested to the limit!). And the gorgeous, colourful crayon cases/holders that they're in were made by the very talented Allana over at High Maintenance Hippy. They fold in half, book-style, and can be hung from a hook when not in use. Pretty cool, huh?!

Sugar Overload

Slightly shocked at the amount of sugary crap that we've accumulated in the last 2 days. Two of our 'extra-curricular' activities have finished up for the year and the older boys have come home loaded with sweets from their teachers.

Yesterday Shmoo and Loo walked in each holding a huge plastic stocking full of multiple bags of marshmallows, jelly beans, lollipops and other various sweets. Seriously, one of those things would have been more than enough for all three of the boys. Luckily both Shmoo and Loo are more than happy to share with Beanie so a good couple of handfuls of their sweets were put into a separate packet for him.. Then this afternoon Shmoo came home with a large plastic cup full of sweets and a packet of potato chips. The OH informed me that a bottle of lemonade had also been part of that gift but Shmoo had drunk that in the car. His first softdrink. Am slightly miffed but at least it wasn't Coke.

It makes me wonder just how much junk food other kids get at this time of year. I know plenty of mainstream schooled kids who do 3-4+ extracurricular activities... is it common for teachers/coaches to give out truckloads of lollies and softdrinks at Christmas?! It's not that we're fanatical about the kids only eating healthy foods, they get regular little treats, I often bake biscuits, and they've had hot chips, Maccas and pizza on numerous occasions but just the sheer volume of sweets they've receive from only 2 sources... I find it a little alarming. To be honest I don't see the need for it - personally I think a couple of sweets accompanied by some stickers or a small novelty toy would have made them just as happy.

At least Shmoo and Beanie are pretty good at self-regulating when it comes to sweet stuff. Loo on the other hand... he's got about 3-4 small lollies left *sigh*. They've been told that when they're all gone, that's it, and if they eat them all at once and feel sick then that's their problem ;) I anticipate 3 boys bouncing off the walls over the next few days. Fun.

I'm glad that Santa only has a couple of small chocolate-y treats each to go in their stockings next week!

Friday, December 14, 2012

The Joy of Giving


Shmoo's old enough now to know how fortunate we are; we don't have much but we have so much more than many other people. With Christmas fast approaching, we have been discussing how some people will go without; how some people won't get presents; how some parents might not have enough money to buy their children gifts for Christmas; how some people may be lonely/sad/hungry at a special time of year that should be about love/joy/family.

Whilst next year we will be reconsidering the organisation that we go through (we would prefer a non-religious group), this year we continued our tradition of giving to the Kmart/Salvation Army Wishing Tree Appeal. As usual we just give a couple of gift cards and don't specify age or gender on the tag so that it can be given to whoever needs it most. This year Shmoo contributed $5 of his own savings. He did it joyfully with absolutely no hesitation; glad to be able to do something, give something, that might make someone else happy. I am so proud of him. I can tell that he gets it.

One of our projects for next year will be for the kids to make some small crafty items throughout the year, I'm thinking maybe some mini Waldorf-style kite paper window stars. They are colourful, cheery, simple and cheap to make. With a little practice the older two should easily be able to make them themselves. And then next Christmas we can give them away. We'll see what organisations we come across throughout the year and were thinking there are also people in aged care homes or people who are in hospital over Christmas.

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Water Kefir - What's Keeping Our Grains Happy

I was a little worried when I first contemplated making water kefir. A lot of the sites I'd read made it sound like the grains were temperamental... they needed just the right kind of water, the right kind of minerals in the right kind of form, the perfect temperature, certain kinds of sugars, no contact with any metal whatsoever, and if they didn't get these things they'd wither and die, or at the very least they'd not multiply and they'd sit there making little sad faces at me (okay, so maybe the last part was just my imagination).

As it turns out, they're hardy little things and seem to be very tolerant. Maybe I just bought happy, healthy grains to start with. Maybe it's just something in our water. Either way, they're making wonderful kefir and are growing at an amazing rate. So I thought I'd share the basic recipe that I've settled on (cobbled together from recipes found on various websites) to keep our grains happy...

Basic Water Kefir Recipe*

6-7 cp water
Scant 1/4 cp white sugar
Scant 1/4 cp jaggery
1/8 tsp bicarb soda
1/2 tsp blackstrap molasses
2 tsp maple syrup
3/4-1 cp water kefir grains
2 slices unpeeled lemon

Now, specifically... The water - I use the water we regularly use, our filtered bore water. The mineral content of our water is quite high (and on the acidic side) and if we didn't filter it then maybe I wouldn't add the bicarb/molasses/maple syrup but we choose to filter so I add those things. I put the sugars into a heatproof jug and then add cup or 2 of hot water to dissolve. I try not to have it too hot as I'm not sure if the heat negatively affects the minerals in the jaggery (as that's the whole point of using jaggery, the mineral content). The rest of the water I add is cool/cold so that it brings everything to a barely lukewarm temp (do not add kefir grains to hot water!). I pour it into the Fido jar after I've added the cold water so as not to end up with cracked jars.

The sugars/molasses - If I've already got enough kefir brewed and I just need to store the grains in the fridge for a few days so that the grains aren't multiplying like crazy, then I'll use a little more jaggery and a little less of the white sugar. If I'm brewing specifically to make a drink then I'll use a little more white sugar than jaggery and I omit the molasses (just for a milder tasting drink).

The lemon - I didn't initially use lemon for the first few brews but I kept coming across sites that mentioned how important it was for the pH balance of the water. We've always got lemons here so no biggy, I throw in a slice or two at the end. I don't add any other fruit to the first ferment, preferring to leave the flavourings until the second ferment... I don't want to risk damaging the grains.

I make it all in a Fido jar (I just throw in the ingredients now that I've got a feel for it, definitely don't need to bother with super-accurate measurements!). I was never really comfortable with the idea of making it in an 'open' (cloth-covered) jar so, as I mentioned here, I was glad to come across others who make it in a Fido jar as well. It turns out that, like lacto-fermented vegetables and unlike kombucha, kefir is an anaerobic ferment, so making it in proper pickling or Fido jars is best. So far I've had no issues with exploding jars, they seem to be able to release a certain amount of pressure and, just in case, I sometimes gently lift the jar by the lid which shifts the lid enough to allow a little more gas to escape. Of course, you may have to be more careful depending on how active your kefir grains are and if you live in a warmer climate. The only thing we've ever had explode was a swing top bottle and that didn't even have kefir in it, just soapy water.

A first ferment of 18-24 hours is working for us at the moment (the liquid has changed to a lighter colour and the grains have eaten up a lot of the sugar). It is summer here now and, even with our cooler climate, our kitchen gets quite warm so the grains get active quickly. I keep the jar on our kitchen table but if it's getting close to that 18-24 hour point and I'm busy then I'll pop the jar into the fridge to slow the grains down until I get a chance to strain and bottle. I expect it will take a bit longer to ferment in winter though.

I strain the grains out and funnel directly into 1L swing top bottles using a nifty 2-in-1 stainless steel funnel. I add in whatever flavourings we're using and then put the bottles straight into the fridge. If I wanted to increase the B-vitamins and carbonation (and if I wasn't so concerned with raising the alcohol content) then I'd leave the bottles out at room temp for a second ferment of another 12-24 hours but the main thing for us is the probiotics and it has enough fizz for us after the first ferment (and my kids can be unruly enough as it is without adding alcohol to the mix ;) ). It does keep fermenting in the fridge anyway, just at a slower rate. Because of this, you can also top up the bottle with a small amount of plain water if you need to and after a day or two, even in the fridge, it will be nice and fizzy. If you're concerned about exploding bottles, just open the bottle briefly every couple of days.

The strained out grains then get a quick rinse (I just pour a bit a clean water over when they're in the strainer and sometimes use the rinse water to top up the swing top bottles) and added to a fresh jar of sugar water. It's then stored in the fridge until I need to make more water kefir (I had some grains in the fridge for 3 weeks when Baby Bear had surgery and they were fine even after all that time; however when we had to leave them for 4 weeks I came close to losing them and it took a couple of batches for them to perk up again). Extra grains are either composted or fed to the cats; or mixed in to small portions of jelly for a special treat for the kids that extra probiotic boost. :) Beanie likes them as is and will happily sit down and eat a cupful of them. Must get around to experimenting with freezing the grains. Always good to have a back-up supply, just in case!

Flavourings - our favourites have been the fresh fruit juices. I've never really liked the taste of dried fruits but lots of people seem to like using them to add flavour. The kids generally prefer a fairly strong fruity flavour so I add about 3/4-1 cup of fresh juice (strained through a reasonably fine strainer) to about 1L of kefir. I also tend to add a little extra sugar mixed in with the juice, maybe only a couple of teaspoons up to a tablespoon, depending on the natural sweetness of the fruit used. Cutting the sugar back gradually as the kids get used to it (The OH and I prefer it much less sweet than the kids do). If you prefer a milder flavour you could just add chopped fresh, dried or frozen fruit to the second ferment. Be careful though as sometimes having actual fruit bits in there makes it fizz a bit more and may increase the risks of explosions if you use airtight bottles/jars.

Strawberry Lemonade - our absolute fave so far. Delish! Lemon juice mixed with pureed strawberries (don't forget to strain before adding it to the kefir though!). Seriously yummy.

Strawberry - just pureed strawberries. The kids really liked this.

Orange Juice - another one the kids quite liked.

Ruby/Pink Grapefruit - one of my faves. Refreshing and not too sweet.

Ruby Orange - Ruby grapefruit and orange juice combo.

Lychee - just using the syrup from tinned lychees.

Passionfruit - Fresh passionfruit is a bit exxy at the moment so I just used tinned. Yum! Refreshing and summery.

Raspberry - nice, quick flavouring, just using a splash of concentrate (I use about 60-70 ml for a 1L bottle of kefir). Also recently threw in a few frozen raspberries which was a nice addition. Strained raspberry puree is nice too.

Lemon - again just from a concentrate.

Apple - Kids loved this one; have tried organic apple juice as well as a concentrate.

Apple/Lemon/Rasberry - various combos of these three flavours using the apple juice and concentrates.

Apple & Ruby Grapefruit

Sarsaparilla - Very, very nice (well, The OH and I think so, the kids aren't so keen). I use a little splash of the Cascade Sarsaparilla concentrate.

Cranberry - concentrate.

Fruit Cup - concentrate. An everyday favourite.

Lime - concentrate.

Apple and Blackcurrent - another concentrate and a fave of the kids.

Peach & Nectarine - Loo requested this one. I blended up a peach and a couple of nectarines with a spoonful of sugar and a splash of apple juice (to thin it down a little). A nice, subtle flavour, refreshing and light.

We also have a bottle of raspberry concentrate here so I'm curious the see what a splash of that tastes like when mixed with the kefir. I'll try it after we finish the next batch of Strawberry Lemonade (which won't take long with the 5 of us drinking it!). If we get a good crop of raspberries on our canes this year I'll have to try making Raspberry Lemonade with them. I'm also keen to try flavouring with lime, passionfruit and lychee. For the concentrates that we use I try and get natural ones, no artificial colours/flavours/preservatives and all that stuff. Actually, I'm just going to continue adding the flavours that we like to the list above as we try them all.

Anyway, we've all turned into big water kefir fans. The kids keep begging for more and The OH and I agree that it tastes so much better than commercial soft drinks.

Read about my experiments with Coconut Water Kefir and Milk Kefir. I also had a go at using some spare water kefir grains in milk to see if it would make milk kefir. It totally did not work. I think you definitely need to use proper milk kefir grains.

*I now use 2 x 3L Fido jars to make enough water kefir to last us a week (5 of us sharing 1L a day). I've found the recipe to be quite flexible. I tend to throw in about 9-10 scant tablespoons of white sugar; 2-3 tablespoons of jaggery; 3 teaspoons of maple syrup; and 1 tsp bicarb soda. Dissolve it in a little hot water, add cold water until the mix is cool. I then divide it between the 2 jars, add 6 heaps tablespoons of kefir grains and 2 lemon slices to each jar, and top up with cold water. It really is very easy once you get into a routine with it. When it comes to bottling it up, I usually pour a cup or so of apple juice as well as a splash (40-50ml) of concentrate/cordial into 1L swing top bottles; pour strained water kefir in; top up with water if necessary; refrigerate.

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Christmas Tree


We generally put our Christmas tree up the first Sunday in December. I mentioned it to the kids yesterday so of course they were going on about it every 5 minutes, driving me nuts! The OH got out and assembled our old playpen that we always put the tree in (stops kids and cats knocking it down all the time!). I then had to explain to Shmoo why it's called a playpen when generally the only things we've ever put in it are things the kids aren't so much supposed to be playing with (we bought it when Shmoo was a tiny baby but gave up on using it to contain a child virtually straight away). And then I spent ages this afternoon tearing the spare room apart in search of our Christmas decorations, trying and failing to locate the very specific bag that I always pack them into... my nearly-30-weeks-pregnant body is not thanking me for all that lifting! Of course, they turned up in a fairly open location but all tangled up at the bottom of a black garbage bag. It was only then that I started getting vague memories of The OH 'helping' me after Christmas last year, packing up the tree while I was out one day. So then I had to untangle all the tinsel and decorations (requiring the help of a pair of scissors, unfortunately) before letting the kids decorate the tree. Luckily we haven't done lights since Shmoo's first Christmas... they would have been a nightmare to untangle! But in the end the kids finally got the tree finished after their bath this evening and they love it. Their excitement was contagious, enough to keep me going 'til the job was done, lifting Beanie up despite my aching back and hips so that he could hang decorations from the higher branches :) Worth it. Worth it all. Their joy was just what I imagined when I was pregnant the first 2 times, little ones due just before Christmas but who never made it.